It may have started out exciting and getting to know each other was fun, but as soon as you showed interest, he or she suddenly took a step back. When you took the hint and backed off, they reached out to you again. Now, repeat the cycle. It becomes a game that really isn’t fun to play. Realize, that someone who is ready for a relationship is NOT going to play games. Here are five things you should know:
Early disappointment is better than aimless anticipation.
If you are truly interested in someone and hoping to take it to the next level tell them. Putting your feelings out there will let you know if they are feeling the same way. Having a conversation and saying, “Where do you see this going?” is bold and a person who’s interested in you are is going to respect that forwardness. Worst case scenario, you find out they aren’t interested and you saved weeks or months of game playing.
If they send mixed signals they’re being selfish.
If someone is toying with your emotions, they are not giving any thought to how you must be feeling or how they are affecting you. All they are concerned with is their own feelings and making themself look like the winner. Someone who is straightforward about their feelings is honest and is truly trying to connect with you.
Most psychological “dating games” are a clear sign they aren’t serious.
Someone who is playing games with you is gambling at the chance they might lose you. You want someone who is going to go for the win. You are a prize and you are worth the effort. Don’t ever forget that.
Your time is more precious than they are.
Life is short. Don’t waste valuable months on someone who you know deep down isn’t really interested. You will miss the chance of meeting someone great. They are out there.
You simply can’t trust them.
Trust is the foundation of a strong relationship. How can you trust someone in a relationship if you can’t trust that they will text you back when they say they will? Don’t let your mind fool you by telling you “they will get better.” Often the warning signs you see at the beginning of a relationship become the issues that can destroy it later. Keep your eyes open.
Disclaimer: The insights of this article are the opinion of the author.