Being physically attracted to a partner is important. But there are some qualities in a person that mean so much more. Below are 10 of my favorites …
Genuinely listening to my interests
There is nothing sexier than feeling supported by you in our pursuits. Give us a listening ear and you’ve got us hooked.
Playing with little kids
No, it’s not just because we like to imagine how you will act with our own kids one day. When you’re sweet to little kids, it shows us that you are playful, easygoing and caring.
Staying calm when I freak out
This one definitely goes both ways, as there are a million places that either gender can fall on the emotional expression spectrum. But when we have a stressful/traumatic/annoying experience and you remain calm about it while giving us a different perspective, that’s attractive.
Being friends with my friends
We bring up the importance of partners and friends liking each other all the time, but that’s because being able to get along with the same types of people shows us that we are compatible.
Holding the door open for us, carrying our luggage, having good manners … as long as they are done with the right intentions, I can be a feminist and still claim that these things are a serious turn-on.
Drive for career/personal goals
We don’t want to be with a guy who just sits on the couch all day. Hard workers demonstrate to us that they care about things and aren’t afraid to go after them. Match our motivation level and we’ll definitely be interested.
Being a good son
Listening and showing respect to your parents is a sign that they raised you with good morals. It is nice to know that you have a solid foundation.
Some women will claim that they can’t think of anything more uncomfortable than having a guy sing to them. But if you have actual musical talent, that is not true.
Understanding and accepting my perspective
We don’t want you to automatically agree with everything that we say or do, in fact, that’s a turn-off. But if we feel really strongly about something, we will appreciate you making an effort to understand—especially if you don’t feel the same way.
Not being a pushover
We are not attracted to guys who let other people walk all over them. This isn’t a free pass to be aggressive for no reason, but it is a hint that we like it when you stand up for what you believe in and for what you deserve.