There are moments in life where we find ourselves doing too much just to make other people happy. Part of being comfortable stems from our ability to set boundaries. It is important to be honest with ourselves, as well as with those around us. If something makes you uncomfortable, let it be known. When we get clear about what we want and do not want, others are more likely to oblige. Here are seven promises to make to yourself and keep.
“Be kind to myself” – This promise is one of the most difficult to follow. Remembering to be kind to ourselves sets the tone for the voice inside our heads and influences how we listen to it. If we show ourselves little compassion when we make a mistake, we are harming our mental well-being. A good tip to remember is to talk to yourself like you would your best friend, significant other, or a child. If you treat others with love and respect, why not show yourself the same?
“I will not try control things I can’t” – For someone who is a control freak like me, learning to ride the ‘wave’ of life can be exhausting. Every little situation does not merit, nor require my control. Fortunately, the only person you can control is yourself, and what’s better than that?
“I will live in the moment” – That is easier said than done. Our minds are so busy wondering what our next steps should be that we lose track of the moment, worrying about the future. Promise yourself to take at least 30 minutes to focus wholeheartedly on the activity you are involved in, whether it be sitting at dinner without your phone or going outdoors to read a book. You will be surprised at how much better you’ll feel when you do not let fear of missing out (“FOMO”) take control.
“I will accept things as are they are” – As tempting as it is, we cannot change people. That notion of fixing others is not realistic or fair to neither them nor you. Accept others/situations and take them at face value.
“I will take accountability for my actions” – Call yourself out when you have made a mistake. Apologizing can be difficult, but it makes us vulnerable and opens channels of communication.
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