Having a new love prospect in your life can be so exciting especially when things are going well. Sometimes we get the dull date or someone who off the bat you can tell doesn’t want commitment. Other times things heat up fast, we connect instantly, and we finally feel we met someone to write home about. But what does it mean when then they suddenly start pulling away? It doesn’t necessarily mean you read the situation wrong.
They are afraid of something.
The number one reason a new partner pulls away is fear. But fear of what? If they are acting a bit distant once things started to heat up they could be worried about the commitment.
They have had bad experiences with love.
Sometimes the fear that they are feeling is of getting hurt again. Perhaps past relationships have put a bad taste in their mouth. Once they see things getting more serious and heading down the same road—they run.
They are emotionally unavailable.
They could just be on a different page when it comes to their emotional maturity than you.
They could have lingering feelings related to an ex.
When entering into a new relationship we can’t help but get some déjà vu when it comes to an ex. Sometimes this can bring up a whole slew of emotions. They could realize they aren’t quite ready to move or just bring up the pain that can hold them back from going forward with you.
It could just be that they want to stay single.
Maybe you were right and things were going great for both of you, but it doesn’t mean that they want to take it to the next level. It’s best to talk upfront about what you are both open to and closed off to.