When is too much, too much? When have you crossed over the line and are doing “all the work” in a relationship? Here are some signals that you are doing just that
You don’t feel excited to see your significant other.
You used to try to leave work early to see them. Just thinking about them made you feel happy. Frankly, you’ve come to realize they are high maintenance and the relationship is not feeling mutual.
You don’t look forward to things
Nothing excites you anymore. You feel like there are too many needy people in your life, and at the end of the day you’re spent because you have given away too much of yourself.
You are TIRED all the time.
You just don’t have much energy, but the people who depend on you don’t even notice that because they are too busy trying to “get” something from you.
Your friends never take your feelings into consideration.
When you’re making plans with friends, you make sure you go to a movie everyone wants to see, you pick the restaurant that has meat-free options for your vegetarian friend, or you plan around their work schedules…but they never do the same for you. It’s time to start keeping YOUR feelings in mind.
Your co-worker asks for ANOTHER favor.
You have counted the times this week when your office mate got you to cover for him. It’s been every day. (And you have never asked him to return the favor). You are beginning to feel like he’s taking advantage of your kindness. Something has to give—and it’s not YOU.