How many thoughts do you think a woman has each day? The answer: scientists estimate the average woman has about 60,000 thoughts each day!
A mentally strong woman has a secret power to stay focused on the thoughts that need her energy for her goals. Here are five thoughts to avoid to help you be that mentally strong woman.
She doesn’t blame others
Instead of taking other people’s behavior personally, you want to sort out what aspects of the other person’s behavior are that are a result of THEIR limitations and what the aspects are of this situation to which you might have contributed. A strong woman takes 100% responsibility for everything that she can control within her 50% of any situation.
She doesn’t allow herself to be hijacked by what other people say or do
See other people’s behavior as a function of their own limitations rather than automatically assuming their behavior means something about you. When you weigh other people’s opinion of you more than you trust your own opinion of yourself, you’ll think you need to control their behavior. You might put a lot of pressure on them to validate you and you’ll hide anything from them you don’t like in yourself. Free yourself from reacting to the other person. Surround yourself with people who “get you” and build you up.
She doesn’t see obstacles as happening “to her;” she sees them as happening “for her”
To be a mentally strong woman, you want to stay in your power by viewing even frustrating events as an opportunity to learn and grow. Instead of being unhappy with your current circumstances, ask yourself, “What am I meant to learn from this situation?” Find the teacher that will help you see you are more capable than you see yourself as now.
She owns her value and doesn’t allow herself to get spread thin
A mentally strong woman knows that when she stays in her power, she has the influence to raise everyone around her. So…prioritize staying in YOUR good energy and vibe. It’s not indulgent to take care of yourself; your ability to take care of others depends on it.
If you want to get to your next level you have to shift from spread thin to being more strategic. Try writing your vision of what an IDEAL day would look like. Think of how you could help others if you were living THAT day every day. Take steps to make each day look more like that. Do you need to work in time for exercise in the morning? Will you feel better if you journal a few times a week to tune into yourself? It can be easier than you think…For example, take a brief mental vacation to “breathe” for three minutes mid-morning and mid-afternoon, and just by doing that you’ll have more clarity on your priorities and up to 30% more energy at 5pm (when you are starting your second shift!)
She doesn’t see other women as competition
Women compared themselves to other women when we thought it was a zero-sum game and there could only be a few of us in power. Then we put ourselves down or pressured ourselves to be better than other women. Experts agree that women need other women in their network in order to get the scoop on how to navigate company politics and find out unadvertised job opportunities.
See other women as opportunities to amplify each others’ ideas and to learn. Even if you haven’t always been supported by other women, you can break that “only one” and “queen bee” cycle by seeing every other woman as part of a sisterhood. When one of us isn’t heard, we’re all subject to the same biases that are perpetuated. Build her up and allow her to build you up. A rising tide lifts all boats!
This article is for informative purposes only. Your experience may be different, so follow what you know.