Falling and love can happen hard and fast. Sometimes we get swept up in emotions and it can be hard to tell when it’s real love or we are just losing ourselves. It’s important to know there are some things you should never compromise for a relationship…no matter how good things seem at first. Here are five things to never do for love:
Change Who You Are
What’s the point of having someone fall in love with you if they don’t truly love who you are? It’s okay to work on yourself to be the best version you can be, but you want to stay true to who you are. It is normal to want to impress someone, but you don’t want to create a persona that you can’t live up to. Compromising your morals or changing certain attributes about yourself will only make heartbreak harder. Finding someone who loves you the way you are is the only way to find true love.
Give Up Your Dreams
One mistake that is commonly made is giving up on dreams to pursue a relationship. When all your time and effort are refocused solely on one person it can be easy to lose yourself. Often giving up on one’s personal goals can lead to resentment of a partner. True love will support your goals and passions and never force you to sacrifice them.
Strain Relationships With Friends or Family
In romance, it can be easy to shift your focus into nurturing that relationship and letting other important ones fall to the wayside. A relationship turns toxic when someone has a controlling partner who tries to restrict time with their family or friends. For a relationship to be healthy a good balance of time together and time apart is crucial. Whether your partner is pushing them away or you are without realizing it, you might want to take a step back and take value in ALL your relationships.
Be Taken Advantage Of
If you love someone and they are treating you like their doormat because they know they can, it may be time to walk away. Sometimes partners take advantage of other’s love for them and kindness. You don’t want to feel like you need to please someone 24/7 and put yourself down in the process. In true love, you are a team and you want to receive the same amount of love and respect that you give.
Hurt Others to Get What You Want
When someone asks you to “be the other woman” or they are giving you empty promises, it can become a toxic territory. Someone like this is taking advantage of your feelings for them and asking you to hurt someone else in the process. Hold your ground and expect actions from those promises. You should never have to do something that feels wrong in the hope of someone in return.
Disclaimer: This article is the opinion of the author.