They say no good deed goes unpunished, and that’s true for relationships with even the most well-meaning partners. You might think your guy is doing everything right, but check out if you’re being held back by any of his five best-intended behaviors.
Being your crutch
Part of being in a healthy relationship is having a supportive partner to help you navigate the tough areas of life. But if you’re relying on your significant other to constantly prop you up, you’re not allowing yourself to reach your full potential – that only happens when you step out of your comfort zone and face your fears. A good partner will be there to help pick you up when you fall, rather than prevent you from ever falling.
Upholding your standing Saturday night reservation
Some people consider a relationship to be serious when you’ve established a “regular spot.” Maybe it’s the place you two always meet for lunch during the week or your regular date night restaurant. While it’s great to have a routine, it’s not so great if it’s all you ever do. Expand your horizons. Maybe opt for a Sunday morning fitness class over the same Saturday night dinner, instead.
Agreeing too quickly
It seems like a guy who easily admits that he’s wrong would be the dream. But every time he gives up and just defers with whatever you’re arguing about, he’s depriving you of the opportunity to fully express and defend your opinions. Simply going with whatever you say doesn’t help you get everything off your chest, and you could end up holding that passion in until the fire burns out. Healthy communication is key to growth, and it doesn’t come from being told you’re always right.
Regularly picking up the tab
Ladies, it’s 2017. We are in the age of female empowerment and equality, and therefore do not need a man to pay for all of our meals … or our jewelry, rent or anything else. It’s nice to be occasionally treated, but don’t be financially held back by an overly generous guy. It can lull you into expecting to be taken care of. It’s important to be financially independent if you want to grow as a person. Treat yourself sometimes – or at least split the bill.
Filling every role
Many people equate their significant other with their best friend, and that’s a good thing. But if he’s your only friend, you’re being held back. Make connections and form bonds with a variety of people to open your mind to new ideas and perspectives. He might be the most important person to you, but he shouldn’t be the only one in your life.