Everyone lacks confidence in their relationships at times, but some aspects of your self-doubt may affect your connection with your partner. Here are eight of the most common insecurities that will hopefully allow you to relax in knowing that you’re not alone.
You don’t feel physically attractive to your partner
No matter how many times he tells you how beautiful you are, you can’t shake the feeling that you’re falling short physically. You cringe whenever he calls another girl attractive and you find yourself putting unnecessary pressure on your looks.
You allow any small detail to mean that he’s lost interest
Whether he bails on dinner or seems less enthusiastic, you’ll convince yourself that it’s because of you. You won’t allow yourself to consider the factors outside of your relationship due to the paranoia bubbling up inside.
You’re on edge when their plans don’t involve you
It’s easy to get wrapped up in the “what ifs” whenever your partner has a night out without you. You’ll entertain the idea that he’s out flirting with other women, or that he’s suddenly realized he prefers a lifestyle without your relationship.
You dread any hint of confrontation
You fear any possibility of a fight because you think that it will lead to a breakup. This is a classic fear that stems from the belief that a relationship thrives on perfection, and this will prevent you from thinking clearly.
You interview your partner about his past relationships
You convince yourself that the only way to relax is to know every detail about his ex so that you can assure yourself that you’re better. You want to be smarter, better-looking and more fun, but these questions will only make you seem self-conscious.
You’re paranoid that your partner is cheating
This stems from the fact that you don’t think you deserve your relationship, and this overpowers anything that your partner has actually done. You won’t rest easy until you’ve driven your partner away because only then will his infidelity be irrelevant.
You don’t want your partner to outshine you
This is extremely important for success-driven couples, for the fear that one will make more money or gain better recognition is overwhelming. You want so badly to be happy for your partner, but you also secretly want him to be jealous of your achievements.
Without reassurance, you crumble
You may rely on constant support in the form of compliments, loyalty and affection. You believe that any absence of this automatically translates to disinterest, and therefore your partner must keep it up or you’ll assume the relationship is doomed.