Marriage may seem like the fairytale happy ending you’ve always wanted, but not with the wrong partner. Try this relationship quiz and if your answer is “no” to any of these questions you may want to hold off on any wedding bells.
Do they keep their promises to you?
While words and promises are great, actions are when you get to see their true colors. Have they promised you things in the beginning of the relationship that you haven’t seen yet or they have broken already? Keep this in mind before making the biggest “promise” to each other of all.
Do they make sacrifices, big or small, for you?
Nobody wants to be with a selfish person. Marriages require compromises and bending a little for one another. Whether it’s as small as skipping out on a night with their friends to do something that is important to you OR as big as moving across the country for your new job opportunity—they both say a lot.
You’ve made a mistake. It’s not as bad as cheating, but it’s something you know will upset your partner. You might be able to get away with not saying anything. Do you tell them?
Marriage is all about communication and trust. In a new or unsure relationship, you might have been quick to answer “no” to this, but once a marriage is in the equation you shouldn’t be afraid to talk to them. You must be willing to work through the tougher conversations.
Do you feel that your partner acts as an armor to your physical and emotional well-being?
A good partner in life looks out for you and doesn’t want to see you in pain. They lift you up on your bad days and make you chicken soup when you’re feeling under the weather. Be aware that a partner who gets you involved with bad behaviors where your health is at risk, berates or belittles you frequently, or physically hurts you themselves is not just a bad partner, but a bad person.
Does your partner apologize and take ownership when they make a mistake?
Nobody wants to be the only one in the relationship that takes responsibility. Nobody is perfect. Chances are that at some point in your lives you will both make mistakes. It is important that your partner is able to take ownership when they are wrong and apologize.
Do you think your partner listens to you the way you listen to them?
It’s important to marry someone who values your opinion and lets you voice your thoughts, concerns, accomplishments, and interests. If he doesn’t show genuine interest in you or your life, let him go. It can be very detrimental to your emotional and mental health to be with someone who never listens to what you’re saying.
Have you both been on the same page most of the time in your relationship?
You and your partner don’t have to be identical. It’s healthy to have different interests and hobbies. What you don’t want to be on different pages about are serious subjects—children, monogamy, where you want to live, etc. If you are always at odds with each other or haven’t touched the subject, you may want to hold off.
