Real intimacy is the ability to get close to people, but if you’re pushing them away, consciously or unconsciously, you’re never going to really connect. These tips will help you get closer and set the stage for physical intimacy as well.
Your partner wants you to be happy
There’s nothing more that warms your partner’s heart than when they know you are content. So don’t hold back any good feelings and laugh a lot. Also, let them know when they do something out of the ordinary that’s really thoughtful.
Everyone wants respect, and your partner is no different
Watch your judgment. Instead of looking at what they’re doing wrong, acknowledge what they’re doing right. Insight: often when we criticize someone else, it’s because we’re feeling uncomfortable with the same trait in ourselves.
Your partner wants you to understand how they really feel
When someone really opens up, they want to be heard. Are you listening for the nuggets of truth that are being said? Sometimes it can be threatening hearing the truth, but if we don’t take it in, we may find more of a distance created.