Letting go of people who aren’t good for us, situations that we’ve outgrown or jobs that no longer serve us isn’t that easy. We know we “should” be able to. After all, don’t we deserve something better? YES. But do we fully believe that? There may be a part of us that feels unworthy of something better or feels guilty for leaving ‘them’ behind (whoever that is).
How do we muster up the strength to act in our best interest?
Realize that you’ve outgrown whatever story you’re telling yourself
Who you are today was not who you were a year ago, 10 years ago or 20 years ago. We change, whether we want to or not. Sometimes the ‘old story’ hangs around though–it may not be playing as loud as it once did, but it’s there, lurking in the back of our mind. We must be strong and recognize it for what it was–a remnant from the past.
Fight wanting to feel “safe”
It may seem easier to hang on to the ‘imagined’ safety net of who we were. If we do, we don’t have to go out there and experience all the uncertainties that the future holds for us. We like to feel comfortable, but at what price? Have the courage to take a risk instead of playing it safe. Be committed more to your growth and exploring your talents, rather than playing “small.”
What do you really want?
Deep down, reflect on your “spiritual purpose”. What is it you are supposed to do in this life, apart from your job or the people you engage with daily? Don’t accept vagueness or not knowing. Even if this is not obvious to you now, make a commitment to find out. (If you do, things will start opening up and become clearer). When you connect with this very deep part of you, it’s easier to let go of the past and accept the excitment of new opportunities that are ahead.
Walk on the “light” side
Don’t be so serious. Don’t take things too personally. Don’t OVERTHINK! Spiritual teachers say to “wear the world like a loose garment.” Start smiling more, even if you don’t feel like it. Act as if you do, and you make start to feel happier, and not know why.