It’s time for a little tough love. Here’s why a relationship will not solve your insecurities.
You have to love yourself before you can love other people
Corny, but oh so true. Relationships are a game of ping-pong, and it’s easy to forget your partner’s needs if you are too focused on your own.
Other people’s opinions mean nothing if you can’t believe them yourself
If you think that a partner who tells you you’re beautiful and smart every day will solve your confidence crisis, you are mistaken. It’s always nice to receive compliments, but if you don’t believe the compliments, you’ll be right back to the insecure spot you started in. You might think, “They’re just saying that” but they’re not just saying that. Find a way to see that for yourself.
A relationship is a partnership, not a therapy session
Now I’m not saying that in the “ideal relationship,” no one ever feels insecure because that’s blatantly untrue. But your partner should not serve as a constant validator – although they should certainly support you. It’s important to remember that it’s a lot of emotional energy to ask of them and that it can be downright frustrating to uplift a partner that can’t see the beauty within themselves.
Being alone will force you to focus on yourself
Don’t panic, you don’t have to be alone forever! You only have to be for now in order to give yourself time to reflect, build your confidence and self-heal. In the long run, you’ll be thankful for the time you dedicated to uplifting yourself because it will make you a stronger person, and a better partner in the future.