Time has passed after your breakup and you get curious about how your ex is doing. It’s okay, it is our natural curiosity that drives us to do it. You can even start to notice that your ex is starting to pop up more often than usual as well. It could be their subtle way of showing you that they miss you. Here are some signs to watch out for that can mean your ex misses you.
They Start Liking Your Photos and Posts on Social Media
It is easier today to know if an ex is still checking up on you. You can see if they keep liking your photos and posts, which is a sign that they miss seeing you. It takes effort to look through someone’s photos that you use to have a connection with. It is a clear sign they miss you if they start liking old photos too. Connell Barrett, Dating Transformation founder and executive dating coach explains that it is common for an ex to keep liking your photos because they weren’t ready for the relationship to be over. “We’re all wired to need romantic connection, and that need remains even after a relationship ends,” Barrett says. “The two of you are no longer lovers and companions, so by liking your photos, your ex can grasp at one of the few tethers of connection that remains – liking your photos. It’s not much, but it’s all they have.”
They Ask Your Friends About You
If you and your ex don’t have an immediate form of communication, they might ask your mutual friends how you are doing. This can be a subtle sign that they are thinking about you and that they miss you. They probably don’t want to ask you how you are right away, so they are trying to create a path of communication by letting your friends tell you. Before opening up communication with an ex again consider thinking “about your motives for wanting to maintain contact,” says Gwendolyn Seldman, Ph.D. Staying in contact with an ex can make it difficult to get over them.
You Notice Them Trying to Make You Jealous
If an ex is trying to get your attention because they miss you, a way they can try to do this is by making you jealous. It can be through social media, or by showing off they are seeing someone new. If they are making an effort for you to see how well they’re doing, they could be missing your validation. If these things start to make you jealous, Robert L. Leahy, Ph.D., suggests taking a moment, breathe slowly, and observe your thoughts and feelings. Jealous feelings are not something you have to deal with anymore since you two are no longer in a relationship.
You Run Into Each Other Often
When you are out at places you usually go, and strangely you keep running into your ex suddenly, it can mean that they are trying to see you. They want to see you and talk to you, which is a subtle sign that they miss you. It can even be that they are not over you yet and are trying to get your attention being at the places you usually go. But not matter if you think it is a sign to get back together it may not. A study published in 2013 in PLOS One, found that “breakup distress may act as a catalyst for personal growth,” while avoiding it may inhibit the development process. So, it is best to be friendly when you see them but move on.
They Joke About Missing You but Mean It
Sometimes when you do talk to an ex, they can joke around and say that they miss you, and it could actually be true. According to author Nicky Curtis, through her experience, she believes that if an ex is always jokingly telling you that they miss you, they are probably not joking. It is a subtle way of not making it too obvious that they miss you in their life like you once were.