We only have a certain amount of energy. If we spend it on things that only pull us down and not move us forward, we are not only depleting ourselves, we’re also robbing people of our talents and gifts. Here’s how to be the best version of you in 2019.
Overthinking
Once you know what to do, don’t waste time considering every possible circumstance. Worrying about the “what-ifs” and the “maybes” rarely accomplishes anything.
Self-doubt
Instead of lingering on your weaknesses for too long, spend more time acknowledging your strengths. You have unique talents that you alone can offer, so why not share them with the world?
Taking on another person’s drama
If an issue is important to someone, it’s up to that person to find a solution. You’re not obligated to fix other people’s petty problems –– even for the people you care about.
Focusing on small stuff
We don’t mean the simple moments with the people you love that make for lifelong memories, nor do we mean the daily grind that helps you achieve your long-term goals. When you look back on 2018, what were the most memorable parts? They’re probably not the trivial gossip or the inconveniences in your day.
Not accepting what is
Just because you take off your rose-colored glasses doesn’t mean you can’t be optimistic. Understanding what resources you do (and don’t) have in your life may help you find unexpected gifts.
Not thinking big enough
When your bar is only as high as you’ve cleared before, you’ll never grow. Don’t underestimate where your talents can take you this year.
People-pleasing
Spending all of your time fulfilling other people’s requests means you won’t have any time left for yourself. If you don’t pay attention to your own goals, no one else will.
Worrying about things you can’t control
Sometimes, no matter how persuasive you are, you can’t change other people’s behavior. What you can change is how you react. You can always choose to be mindful and present instead of panicked.
Not taking smart risks
You’ve done the research and you have the talent, so there’s no reason why you can’t pursue your dreams yourself. You don’t need to wait for someone to take the risk for you; you have the power to make change happen, too.
Putting your self-care last
The best person to take care of you is you. Listen to your instincts and understand when to pull back, reset, and rehabilitate when necessary. There will always be time for personal care in 2019.
