The idea of self-love is a new-ish concept, or dare we say “New Age” idea. Often we hear people say, “I love myself, but I’m still alone.” Or, “Sure, I love myself, but if only my partner would [change in some way.]”
Understanding what self-love actually is will help you cultivate it in your own life. Self-love is the actual way you behave toward and about yourself.
Do you treat yourself kindly? Do you speak to yourself kindly?
What about when you make a mistake? Do you beat yourself up and call yourself stupid? Are you invested in the attempt to be perfect?
Having the expectation of being “perfect” is unrealistic. Even when you are with your Beloved, you will have miscommunication, you will disappoint each other, you will disagree, and possibly argue.
Love your “mistakes” and embrace them. Own them – they belong to you. Conflict is the door to deeper connection. This is true with every single relationship you have.
All too often we find that people want to deny their feelings. This is not a loving act. Feel what you need to in the moment. The great thing about emotions is that they shift and change on a dime. Resisting one will only make that feeling persist.
This Valentine’s Day give yourself a gift – simply be with you for awhile. Put your hands on your heart, breath deep, and feel. Be present in the moment and embrace your glorious beautiful self.
If tears come, let them. If laughter comes, great! Just be with you because the gift of your time is important, and choose what you say to yourself with loving kindness.
You are the only you that exists. There will never be another you!