When you find someone that you really love and care about, you want to make sure that they will stay and continue in the relationship. But how do you keep that person’s heart and continue to do so? We want to share some secrets with you on how to accomplish just that!
Show Them How Much You Care
You can tell your partner that you care about them, but it is also as important to show them that you care as well. Doing simple things like writing them a love letter or helping them with something that will make their day easier will show them how much you care for them. Doing these things will mean you are putting in some extra effort, but the hope is that they will appreciate what you are doing and return the favor. “Simple acts of kindness are the ones we so easily overlook in everyday life. Yet they speak volumes to others in our lives,” says John M. Grohol, Psy.D. Your partner will know you care and will make them grateful that you have their heart.
Having respect in a relationship is very important, and it is something that will keep your partner in the relationship. Respect can be something difficult to maintain sometimes, especially during a heated argument, but maintaining it will make the relationship stronger. According to Stephen J. Betchen, D.S.W., it is not the only factor in a successful relationship, but respect should not be given short shrift. Having mutual respect will make your connection stronger and most likely to last longer as well.
Create a Safe Space for Them
Creating a safe space for you and your partner will make them feel loved and want to continue to be with you. Creating this safe space will allow for emotional safety in the relationship which is necessary to be close with someone. According to Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW, components of an emotionally safe relationship include having trust that you have their best interest at heart, both take responsibility for your actions, and being able to communicate in a healthy and respectful manner.
Challenge Them to Be Better
A goal in a relationship is being able to grow and learn from one another. This is something that will keep your partner wanting to stay in the relationship and it can win over that person’s heart. “The best relationship can challenge you to be your best self, make you reaffirm your values, and inspire you to learn more about yourself and your partner,” says Damona Hoffman, online dating coach and relationship expert. Creating this dynamic in a relationship will help you both grow and become better people because of it.
Support Their Goals
If a person feels like you are supporting their dreams and goals, it will definitely win over their heart. According to Gwendolyn Seldman, Ph.D., encouragement from romantic partners to pursue goals in areas such as career, school, friendship, and fitness makes people more likely to actually achieve those goals. Being that support for your partner will encourage them to focus on the positive aspects of achieving their goals. Seldman says that you can also help your partner develop strategies to pursuing their goals which makes them more likely to succeed.