Usually, we imagine all of the different kinds of people we’d like to surround ourselves with. Whether it’s a friend or a partner, it’s not hard to think of the good qualities that attract us to them. But what about the flip side? There are many ugly characteristics in people that we need to avoid in order to maintain healthier relationships. So be sure to steer clear of these types:
If you find yourself feeling alone in this person’s presence, they’re most likely a narcissist. They may seem intriguing at first because they practically ooze self confidence. But underneath that layer lies an ugly secret–their self-obsession. Travis Bradberry, an emotional intelligence expert at Forbes, says of narcissists, “you’re merely a tool used to build their self-esteem.”
No matter what you do, it’s never good enough. It seems like you’re always the first one to blame, because how could this person possibly be in the wrong? While honest feedback can be healthy, these people judge in the worst way–it does no good for anyone. They belittle you and you don’t deserve it! “Judgmental people stifle your desire to be a passionate, expressive person, so you’re best off cutting them out and being yourself,” says Bradberry.
Nothing is ever quite right in this person’s eyes. They look for the negative in every situation. They don’t celebrate with you, rather, they’re selfish and they try to pull you down and damper your optimism. It’s important to spot these people early before they sneak in with their storm clouds.
Once they’re in your life it can be hard to get rid of them. Bradberry says, “temperamental people are tough to dump from your life because their lack of control over their emotions makes you feel bad for them…[they] will use you as their emotional toilet and should be avoided at all costs.”
It can be tough to catch these people in the act, especially if you don’t know them well yet. But once you become familiar with their ways, you must try to listen to your gut and avoid them. Lies hurt, and are can break up a relationship. Honesty and trust connects people, not secrets and deception.
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