One of our favorite things about our friends is the incomparable strength that comes from supporting each other. The women in our lives understand our struggles and empower us to move past tough times.
Yet too often, women don’t give themselves the same support they offer to everyone else. Since we don’t always realize when we’re doing this, here are the ways each zodiac personality tends to be too hard on herself. Now, give yourself a break!
Aries (March 21st-April 19th)
Go, go, go is your mantra, Aries. You’re always moving on to something bigger. Because of this, you’re better at starting projects than finishing them – and that can leave you with some guilt. You tend to lose faith in your ability to complete something whenever you feel stuck. Recognizing when to dig in to a project when it gets tough (and knowing when to abandon it when it’s not worth it) can help to assuage that guilt.
Taurus (April 20th-May 20th)
Stop us if this sounds familiar: you get ready for bed, turn off the lights, and close your eyes . . . and all you can think about was some cringeworthy moment that happened 10 years ago. Everyone involved in that memory has probably forgotten about it, but you have a hard time forgiving yourself for some awkward or embarrassing mistake. Let go of the history you can’t change.
Gemini (May 21st-June 20th)
Friends, family, and coworkers appreciate the way you always go the extra mile, but this can take its toll. If you always overextend yourself at work or are too generous with your time, nobody will respect your boundaries (including you!). If you set limits for yourself, you can focus on your priorities without stretching yourself too thin.
Cancer (June 21st-July 22nd)
You always have great advice for your friends, but when was the last time you took it yourself? Cancer tends to look after everyone but herself. The next time you feel stressed, exhausted, or depressed, pretend like you are talking to your best friend. What would you tell her right now? Now, follow that advice!
Leo (July 23rd-August 22nd)
As confident as she may seem on the outside, Leo is constantly comparing herself to others. While this may seem harmless to you, measuring yourself against other people can be damaging. Self-improvement doesn’t mean contrasting when you’ve hit a milestone versus when your peers have; it means setting reasonable goals for yourself and appreciating how far you’ve come.
Virgo (August 23rd-September 22nd)
There’s no sneaking anything past fastidious Virgo because she tracks every detail with a watchful eye. Unfortunately, this means you tend to focus on things you can’t change. Being organized and successful sometimes means accepting the feeling that anything can go wrong. Some things may not be your fault, which means they aren’t your mess to clean.
Libra (September 23rd-October 22nd)
Even when success does come your way, your feelings of accomplishment rarely last. You tend to dwell on what you could have done better, or else you feel like you don’t deserve the rewards. If your friend earned that same reward, would you be happy for her? If so, indulge in some pride for yourself!
Scorpio (October 23rd-November 21st)
Scorpio loves meeting new people and her social excitement is contagious. Still, when people reflect that same energy back to you, you resist. You have difficulty accepting a compliment and your instinct is to stay humble and deflect it. Instead of saying, “Oh, it was nothing,” or, “I didn’t really do anything special,” a simple “thank you” will help you feel even better.
Sagittarius (November 22nd-December 21st)
With your blunt tongue, your friends know when you don’t like something and when you really love it. It’s a fine line, but you can manage it because your honesty comes from a place of respect. Yet when you talk about your own ideas, your insecurity makes you overly critical. You immediately tend to dismiss your own ideas by saying, “This is probably stupid, but. . . .” Instead of preparing for rejection, remember that your ideas have value.
Capricorn (December 22nd-January 19th)
Chanting “I think I can, I think I can” has taken you over some enormous hills in your life. As impressive as that is, you’re afraid to bring your train into the station for some much-needed rest. Taking a day off work makes you anxious, yet giving yourself some breaks can actually boost your productivity. Treat yourself to some R&R every now and then – and don’t even answer any work emails!
Aquarius (January 20th-February 18th)
Always looking ahead to your future makes you a visionary, but unfortunately, it tends to make you focus on what you haven’t accomplished. Sometimes, recognizing how far you have come can be just as constructive as setting new goals for yourself.
Pisces (February 19th-March 20th)
Empathy guides your reactions. You tend to see other people’s silly mistakes as understandable, but you mentally beat yourself up when you make those same mistakes. You deserve as much forgiveness for yourself as you’re willing to give others.