Unfortunately, we deal with people all the time who lack integrity. Sometimes we’re shocked or surprised because we didn’t expect it of that person. Other times, we see it coming because they always say one thing, but do the opposite. When we have to deal with these people, it’s uncomfortable and can throw us off balance. Here are some ways to handle people you can’t trust.
Don’t close your eyes to what’s really happening
Confrontation is something most of us don’t want to deal with. It’s uncomfortable and sometimes it’s easier to believe a lie. But when you know that you’re being deceived, you have to stand your ground and not deny what’s going on. In the end, the discomfort of dealing with the truth will be worth it.
Be direct and to the point
When dealing with people who are deceitful, only reveal what’s absolutely necessary. Keep your communications as brief as possible. You don’t want to give them information they can twist to use to their advantage at the expense of someone else.
Confront them if you must
If you’ve caught them in a lie, there’s no way to skirt around the issue. Keep calm and say what you know. If they start arguing with you, look them straight in the eye, take a few deep breaths, and repeat what you know is true.
Don’t doubt yourself, no matter what
They’ll probably try to make it seem like something is wrong with you; like you’re not understanding what they’re saying. Don’t let them manipulate you. Don’t back down.
Cut ties, if possible
Cutting someone off completely is sometimes easier said than done, especially in a work situation. However, if you know you can’t trust the person, there really is no point in maintaining the relationship. If you can’t walk away from them altogether (due to work or family obligations), at least keep your interactions with them to a minimum.